你真的想听吗？！——赛斯给一位听力损伤者的建议（下）

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到目前为止,你在否定自己大部分的听力，因为声音可能令你不快，而照此发展下去，声音也许很快就成了“坏东西”。你知道三只坐着的小猴子，分别代表“非礼勿视”“非礼勿听”等等。现在你就恰好是“非礼勿听”。不仅如此，你还雪上加霜，不让自己沉浸在快乐，以及快乐的追求中，除非你能给自己找借口说：“我这么做都是为了别人”。这成为你允许自己做那些项链的唯一理由。你可以说：“我是为班上的同学们做的”，从而证明这种乐趣是合理的。

你一定要明白你是一个独特的、受祝福的个体，你一定要善待自己，就像你努力善待他人一样，甚至还要更好。因为他们也沐浴在你感受到的喜悦里。最重要的是，你要明白这一点。

现在你的确能够进步，而且自从你开始上鲁柏的课以来，你已经在很多方面进步了。你丈夫也是。你已经花了蛮长时间，坚持不懈地培养出这些习惯，所以你也可以用同样的坚持和决心来改变它们。

现在你把你的同学（埃莉诺）发送给你的能量用在了其它的整体目的上。当你不想听的时候，她的能量也不能强迫你去听。事实上，你会自动抵抗，因为你认为听不见对你的生存来说是至关重要的。我刚才建议的练习，如果你照着做，将会帮助你充分敞开，好让传送给你的能量可以被用来改善这个困境。但是当你不肯听的时候，你会把为了让你听见而特别传送给你的能量也当成是一种威胁，威胁到你的生存，而决心阻止它。你一定要明白你的生存仰赖你充分享受所有的感官。仅仅阅读这一节，就应该会帮助你意识到这一点。

（玛丽：“我可以问一个问题吗？”）

赛斯：确实可以。

（玛丽：“你刚才建议的练习，我每天应该练多长时间？”）

赛斯：你高兴练多久就练多久。就是说，最多不超过半小时。

（玛丽：“还有每天画画一个小时？”）

赛斯：你真的该这么做。

（玛丽：“那会是件赏心乐事！”）

赛斯：享受它吧。还有，这个练习——不要做得太用力了。现在，你很会运用你的想象力。那就想象这些新声音的出现，直到你真的目眩神迷。

（玛丽：“我是不是也应该做些特别的亊，好比说，去老妇人之家弹钢琴给她们听？”）

赛斯：如果你那样做，也可以。但是它不像画画那么重要。为别人做事很重要，但就像我们的朋友（罗）说的，为自己做事是最要紧的。如果你是快乐的，单单做你自己，就对别人有所帮助。如果你心情沮丧却想要帮助别人，你对他们并没有帮助。不管怎样，我给你的所有建议，都要照做，包括一早起来打扮自己。

（玛丽：“一早起来什么？”）

赛斯和罗：打扮自己。

（玛丽〔大笑〕：“好吧。我会的。”）

赛斯：还要走出家门。

（玛丽：“好。我是应该多出去走走。”）

赛斯：有空把颜料带到户外去。想想看！声音是多么可贵啊！用你们的话来说，它们会说话，而且声音一旦消失，就再也捕捉不到了。你凭什么说：“我不要听，因为这太微不足道了。”这些声音是神奇的魔法，要对它们心存感激。你将永远不再是此刻的这个人格。用你们的话说，不论你将成为什么样的自己，或者曾经是什么样的自己，那些自己每一个都是独一无二的，就像你现在是独一无二的一样。当你听他（罗）说话时，他的话是心灵的神奇签名，在你所理解的时间的这一刻，它们以某种方式具体化，不但珍贵，而且听来让人心生喜悦。每个男人和女人的话语，每一只鸟和每一滴雨点的声音，也都一样珍贵——珍贵得无法召回。所以，不要把你自己关起来，不去听那些声音，要感谢它们。

你一直害怕表露情绪。你认为流泪是懦弱的。你不想面对自己的情绪，所以你也害怕别人的情绪。你没有习惯性地向你的丈夫表露你的情绪。现在他可以更容易地向你表达他的一些情绪了。他改掉了这个习惯，但是你不想听。你认为眼泪是“可耻的”。你过去认为快乐是"邪恶的"。这并没有给你留下太多可接受的情绪。

(玛丽〔微微一笑〕：“没错。”)

好。眼泪并没有什么可耻的。现在，再想象它们就像乌云密布时从天而降的雨水一样自然。雨水使大地焕然一新，而眼泪能使灵魂焕然一新，当你将压抑的情绪顺其自然地释放时，它们真的随后在泪水中流走，而灵魂获得了更新。它不会“耿耿于怀”。当你怀恨在心时，你就像一朵愤怒的小乌云，说：“我要抓住这团湿气，我永远不会放手！”但云朵更聪明，它们很容易就把自己清空，而雨水刷新了大地。眼泪也能刷新你心灵的土地。以这种方式运用，沮丧就会自然地消失，并允许“快乐的阳光普照”——请原谅我用了一句陈词滥调。不然的话，云层就会变得越来越黑，直到看不见太阳，直到太阳乍看之下似乎不对劲了，脱离了背景，没有出现在这样黑暗的风景中。所以你试图隐藏它。

如果你不信任你的情绪，那么你就无法再信任你的快乐。如果你试图隐藏你的恐惧，那么，你自然会隐藏你的快乐。一旦你开始抑制情绪，这种做法就会像瘟疫一样蔓延，直到所有的情绪都必须被抑制，以免你害怕的东西出现。

我要结束我们的课了。不过，我想再告诉你一次，你已经进步了。你没有理由不能解决问题，你和你丈夫的关系也没有理由不能持续改善。你们两个都做得很好。

还有一件小事。你经常用接近医疗经验的方式来惩罚你自己。手术的想法，一方面让你害怕，但另一方面，你又觉得它“只是惩罚我这对没用的耳朵”。

我不是告诉你，当你认为自己需要治疗的时候别去接受治疗。我是在告诉你，你经常利用医疗来进一步惩罚你的身体。你经常利用医疗来让自己安心。你还不太确定你形成你自己的实相，同时你又想确定医疗人员能够帮你摆脱困境！

（玛丽：“是的，我懂了。我想我的医生会建议开刀，到时候我不知道要怎么跟他说。我该不该跟他说我要考虑考虑？”）

赛斯：我不会对它下定论，也不会对你自己下定论。去试试我建议的实验。

（玛丽：“因为只剩十天我就要去做听力检查了，我有一种感觉，他会叫这位专科医师来会诊。”）

赛斯：眼前，我会忘掉期限。它只会让你紧张。你不要带着“我必须抓紧时间”的念头，开始做我建议的实验。

（玛丽：“对。我只是不知道该怎么跟医生说。因为他很可能要我签手术同意书，但我没有——还没有下定决心要不要手术。”）

赛斯：如果你要我的建议，那么，我会把它延后。

（玛丽：“好。谢谢你。”）

赛斯：在你自己想得比较清楚以前，不要做决定。

（玛丽：“因为我想试试看不手术就把它治好。”）

赛斯：〔停顿很久〕我想你可以。无论如何，在那个部位，这种延迟不会伤害到你。而且你的心态一天不改，手术也帮不了你。你了解我的意思吗？

（玛丽：“是的，我明白。我以前也认为你是这个意思。”

赛斯：那么，我祝你们有个美好的夜晚。

（玛丽：“非常感谢你，赛斯。”）

赛斯：好。等一下，等一下。我们要唱一段很短的苏马利疗愈之歌。

（苏马利过来唱了一首美妙的歌曲。）

——摘译自赛斯《私人课》第二册

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校对 |

DELETED SESSION (FOR MARY SMITH)

MAY 3, 1972

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So far, you are denying a good portion of your hearing because sound can be unpleasant, and carrying this a bit further now, it can also be “bad.” You know the three little monkeys who sit: “see no evil” and so forth. Now you have simply hit upon the “hear no evil.” You have added to it the fact that you will not indulge yourself in joy, or in joyful pursuits, Unless you can rationalize to yourself by saying: “I am doing this for someone else,” and that is the only reason you let yourself work with the necklaces that you made. You could say: “I am making these for class members” and therefore justify the pleasure.

You must realize that you are a unique and a blessed individual, and you must be as kind to yourself, and kinder, even, than you try to be to others. For they also bathe in the joy that you feel. It is most important that you understand this.

Now you can indeed progress, and you have progressed in many ways since you began Ruburt’s class. And so has your husband. It has taken you some time to develop these habits with such persistence. And so you can change them, using that same persistence and determination.

Now you used the energy that your classmate (Eleanor) was sending you for other overall purposes. While you did not want to hear, her energy could not force you to hear. Indeed, you would automatically put up a defense, because you considered not hearing to be important to your survival. The exercise that I just suggested to you will, if followed, now, help you open up sufficiently so that energy sent to you can be utilized for that specific difficulty. But while you refused to hear, you would consider energy sent to you particularly to make you hear also a threat to your survival, and would be determined to block it. You must realize that your survival depends upon enjoying all of your senses fully. Reading the session alone should help you realize that.

([Mary:] “May I ask a question?”)

You may, indeed.

([Mary:] “How long a day, each day, should I practice what you just suggested?”

As long as it is enjoyable. That is, no more than a half-hour, at the most.

([Mary:] “And an hour of painting every day?”)

You should indeed.

([Mary:] “That’ll be a pleasure!”)

And enjoy it. And the exercise—do not strain at it. Now, you use your imagination well. So imagine these new sounds as they would appear, until you are really dazzled.

([Mary:] “Should I do anything specific to, like, go to the Old Ladies’ Home and play the piano for them?”)

If you do that, it is fine. But it is not as important as the painting. Doing things for other people is important, but doing things, as our friend (Rob) said, for yourself is imperative. If you are joyful, you will help other people simply by being what you are. If you try to help others and you are despondent, you do not help them. All the suggestions that I gave you, however, follow including “dressing in the morning”.

([Mary:] “What in the morning?”

([Seth and Rob:] “Dressing in the morning.”

([Mary, laughing:] “All right. I’ll do that.”)

And getting out of the house.

([Mary:] “Yes. I should get out of the house more.”)

Take your paints outside sometime. Think! How precious voices are! In your terms, they speak, and the sounds are gone and never recaptured. And who are you to say: “I will not listen, for this is trivial.” These sounds are magic. Be thankful for them. You will never again be the personality that you are at this moment. Whatever self you will be, in your terms, or you were, each of those selves are unique, as you are unique. When you hear him (Rob) speak, his words are the magical signatures of the psyche, materialized in certain ways within this moment as you understand a time, and precious and a joy to hear. And so are the words of every man and woman, and the sound of every bird and every raindrop—precious beyond recall. So do not close yourselves to those sounds, and be thankful for them.

You have been afraid of displaying emotions. You think that tears are cowardly. You have not wanted to face your own emotions, therefore you are frightened of the emotions of others. You did not, habitually, display your emotions to your husband. Now he could more easily express some of his to you. He got out of the habit, however, You did not want to hear them. You consider tears “degrading.” You considered, in the past, joy “evil.” This did not leave you too many acceptable emotions.

([Mary, slight laugh:] “That’s right.”)

Now. There is nothing degrading in tears. Think of them, again, now, as being as natural as rain that falls out of the sky when the clouds are full. The rain refreshes the ground and tears can refresh the soul when depressions are freed to follow their natural course. Then, indeed, they flow away in tears and the soul is refreshed. It does not “hold onto its grudges”. When you hold a grudge, you are like some angry, little black cloud that says: I will hold onto this moisture, and I will never let it go!” But clouds have better sense, and so easily they empty their contents and the rain refreshes the land. So can tears refresh the land of your psyche. And used in such a manner depressions fall away naturally and allow, if you will forgive me for a trite phrase, “the sun of joy to shine.” Otherwise, the cloud becomes blacker, and blacker and blacker until the sun cannot be seen, and until the sun, when glimpsed, seems wrong, out of context, and does not appear in such a dark landscape. And so you try to hide it.

If you do not trust your emotions, then you can no longer trust your joy. And if you try to hide your fear, then, you automatically hide your joy. Once you begin to inhibit emotions, the practice spreads like a plague, until all emotion must be inhibited, lest the one thing that you fear show its face.

I am going to close our session. However, I want to tell you, again, that you have progressed. There is no reason why you cannot work things out, and why the relationship between you and your husband should not continue to improve. You are both doing well.

One small point. You have been punishing yourself quite often in the way in which you approach the medical experience. The idea of an operation, on the one hand, frightens you. On the other hand, you feel it is “just punishment for these ears of mine that will not work.” The same applied to the mouth. In that case, again, the attitudes cause your reaction.

I am not telling you not to get treated medically when you believe that you need it. I am telling you that often you use medical treatment as a further punishment of the body. Often you use medical treatment as a reassurance. You are not quite certain, yet, that you form your own reality, and you want to make certain, in the meantime, that the medical profession can help you out!

([Mary:] “Yeah. I see. I don’t know what to tell my doctor when I think he’s going to suggest an operation. And I don’t know what to tell him. Shall I say I’ll think about it?”)

I would leave it open, and leave yourself open. And try the experiments that I have suggested.

([Mary:] “Because I only have ten more days till I get the hearing test, and I have a feeling that he’ll want this specialist to go in there and work.”)

For now, I would forget the deadline. It will only make you nervous. You are not to begin these experiments that I’ve suggested with the idea that “Well, I must hurry up.”

([Mary:] “Yeah. I just didn’t know what to tell the doctor. ‘Cause he might want a statement of when I would get an operation, and I don’t—I haven’t made up my mind if I want one or not, yet.”)

I would put it off, then, if you are asking my advice.

([Mary:] “Yes. Thank you.”)

Do not make a decision until you are clearer in your own mind.

([Mary:] “Because I want to try to heal it without an operation.”

(Long Pause.) I think that you can. The delay, in any case, will not hurt you, in that particular area. And without changing your attitude, the operation will not help. Do you follow me?

([Mary:] “Yes, I do. That’s what I thought you meant, too, before.”)

Then, I bid you a fond good evening. And my heartiest regards to my friend over there (Rob), who did not have to take any notes this evening.

([Mary:] “Thank you very much, Seth.”)

Now. Wait for a moment. Wait for a moment. We will have a very brief Sumari healing song.

(Sumari came through with a lovely song.）

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