找回你的自我认可感 | 《健康之道》连载（13）

1984年 2月2日、2月6日

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在鲁柏自己的头脑里，他将这些想法统称为“新方法”。

当然，这些想法本身是相当古老的。从过去直到现在，它们被许多文化与宗教、秘密团体及教派表达出来。不过，它们的力量、活力和价值已经被各种误述、消极思想和一些纯粹的胡说八道大大削弱了。

换言之，这些对天地万物都是如此自然的概念，并没有被人类以其纯粹的形式去实践。从这个意义上说，它们的确代表了一种新的方法。就世界文化的主流而言，它们直接与你们许多公认的知识及当代思想背道而驰。在这些想法被实践的地方，它们又常常被狂热主义、迷信和权宜之计所玷污。

我想说的重点是，对于自然本身固有的健全性，这种“新方法”是理想的、最简单的补充。

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那么，所有的生物也都生来具有一种强烈的自我认可感。

每一种生物生来都以自己为荣，爱自己。不仅是你们认为的生物，原子、分子以及所有阶次的物质也会以不同的方式体验那同样的自我认可。

鲁柏曾写过一首关于窗台上的钉子的诗。他赋予那钉子意识与自我觉察。且说，每根钉子的确以自己的方式对刺激作出反应。它们行动并反应。一根钉子可能不会选择跳下窗台，在房间里跳舞，但一根钉子的确能意识到房间、窗台，意识到窗户两侧的温度。构成钉子的原子和分子具有自己活跃的意识。它们的运动是由电子引导的，因此在钉子内部实际上经历着不断的运动。的确，那是以美妙的对称及韵律完成的一种舞蹈。那么，钉子确实充满了自我认可感。

我提到这一点只是为了强调一个事实，即自我愉悦和自我认可是自然的特性——这些特性实际上使你们的整个物质世界和经验世界成为可能。

所以，当成年人无意中破坏了一个孩子的自我认可感时，是非常不幸的。举例来说，一个小男孩可能被逮到在说谎，因此被一个大人以最愤怒的用语贴上了骗子的标签。相反地，应该做一个区分：孩子犯了一个错误——他说了谎——但他本身不是那错误，也不是那谎言。他可以随后下决心改变他的行为，同时仍保留他的自尊。

所有的生物基本上都有良好的意图；即使他们做出了最可疑的行为，通常也是由一个误导的良好意图引起的。事实上，许多罪犯的动机是歪曲的正义。关于这点，我们在本书的后面将有更多的话要说，但现在我想强调的是，自我认可对于蓬勃生机、健康和幸福的重要性。

In his own mind, Ruburt calls these ideas, taken together, "The New Way."  

The ideas themselves are quite ancient, of course. They are expressed by many cultures and religions, esoteric groups and cults from the past, and continuing into the present. Their strength, vitality, and worth has been greatly undermined, however, by distortions, negative ideas, and some sheer nonsense.  

In other words, these concepts, so natural to all of creation, have not been practiced by humanity in anything like their pure form. To that extent they do indeed represent a new way. They run directly counter to much of your official knowledge and contemporary thought as far as the mainstream of world culture is concerned. Where such ideas are practiced, they are frequently contaminated by fanaticism, superstition, and expediency.  

The main point I want to make is that this "new way" is the ideal and easiest complement to nature's own innate integrity.

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All creatures are also born, then, with a keen sense of self-approval.  

Each creature is born proud of itself, and loving itself. That same self-approval is also experienced in varying ways not only by creatures as you think of them, but also by atoms and molecules, and by all orders of matter.  

Ruburt once wrote a poem about a nail on a window sill. He endowed the nail with consciousness and self-awareness. Now every nail is indeed in its own way responsive to stimuli. It acts and reacts. A nail may not choose to jump down from a window still and dance about the room, but a nail is indeed aware of the room, of the window sill, and aware of the temperature on both sides of the window. The atoms and molecules that compose the nail possess their own lively consciousnesses. Their motion is directed by electrons, so that within itself the nail actually experiences constant motion. Indeed, a dance is executed of great symmetry and rhythm. The nail, then, is indeed filled with its own sense of self-approval.

I am mentioning this only to stress the fact that self-delight and self-approval are natural characteristics — characteristics that actually make your entire physical world, and world of experience, possible.  

It is very unfortunate, therefore, when adults inadvertently undermine a child's sense of self-approval. A small boy might be caught in a lie, for example, and therefore labeled by an adult in the angriest of terms as a liar. Instead, a distinction should be made: the child made an error — he lied — but he himself is not the error or the lie. He can then determine to change his behavior while still saving his self-respect.  

All creatures are basically of good intent; even when they commit the most dubious of acts, these are usually caused by a misdirected good intent. Actually, many criminals are motivated by distorted versions of righteousness. We will have more to say about this later in the book, but for now I want to stress the importance of self-approval in connection with exuberance, health, and well-being. 

——摘译自赛斯《健康之道》

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